If
you were to listen to modern domestic violence discourse, you would think that
domestic violence is unique to the male species and that if all men were tamed and controlled than domestic violence would disappear. However, this is far from the case. A large
proportion of domestic violence victims are men, and often it is their wives or
girlfriends, or sometimes their friend who is the perpetrator, as happened in
this alleged instance,
“A woman who angrily doused an
"old friend" in petrol and set him alight for making a misogynistic
comment was suffering from depression and substance abuse, a court has heard.
Corbie Jean Walpole, 24, earlier
pleaded guilty to one charge of burning or maiming by using corrosive fluid.
Her victim, Jake Loader, was 23 when
he was found with life-threatening burns at a southern New South Wales home in
Howlong on January 7 last year.
Walpole tearfully appeared before the
Albury District Court today expecting to be sentenced.”[1]
Men,
don’t taunt someone who can hurt you. Just do not be that stupid. That being
said, this case is a clear example of how women can be dangerous too. Which
brings to mind something I am writing about in an upcoming book,
“Before we finish this chapter and
this discussion, we need to address two more considerations.
Firstly, what about when the wife is
being violent or otherwise abusive? Here are some statistics on this issue: In
the UK 712,000 men experience domestic violence every year.[2]
That is about 1/3 of all domestic violence victims, and about 3% of the male
population. In the United States 1 in 9 men will face domestic violence in
their lifetime.[3] When
all crimes by partners against men are totalled 25.7% of men will face sexual
abuse, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.[4]
It is not well known that men make up
about 1/3 of all domestic violence victims. It should be, because there are
plenty of men’s activists and activist groups who talk about this. However,
they are shunned from media attention, are not given the same kind of funding
as feminist domestic violence organisations, and are often disbelieved anyway. And,
what is worse, it is very likely the numbers of men being abused are higher
because most men are too ashamed to talk about it.
As I said earlier many women crush
their husbands with their words, and this might not seem like a big deal, but
men have killed themselves over this sort of thing. In fact, many more men
commit suicide than women, and relationship breakdown is often at the centre of
their situation. Plus, many of the ways women are cruel to their husbands are
not included in the statistics. Denying her husband any intimacy or sex will
not be seen as abusive by any modern court, or even by many modern women, but
it crushes many men in our society, turning them into shells of their former
selves.[5]
Women tearing their husbands down behind closed doors for every perceived or
real failing, however, minor, also cushes men’s spirits. If you also included
this and also how many bad women use false accusations to get the state to
abuse their husband “legally,” then I suspect the statistics would even things
out.[6]
Using a false accusation to destroy her husband's life, reputation, and finances
is as violent a form of abuse as any employed by a man, yet it is not accounted as
such by many.
If you as a man are facing domestic
violence you need to separate and move somewhere safe as well. If a woman can
do this, why can’t a man? It is not unknown to have violent women hurt or even
kill their husbands. Maybe he was also abusive, but not necessarily, either
way, staying in a dangerous situation is not good for either the husband or the
wife. If you are provoking each other continually, you are playing with fire.
Did you hear about the woman who threw fuel on her friend and then set him
alight, because he said something insulting?[7]
If that can happen between friends who are constantly provoking each other, do
not think it cannot happen in your marriage too.”
Men
can be dangerous to women, no one with sense denies this. But plenty of people
who should have sense deny the other reality that there are really dangerous
women in this world. Often, when a woman hurts a man people will seek to
explain it as provoked, or a response to something he did. But is there
anything a person can say that justifies being burnt alive? No.
Be
careful, both men and women need to be careful who they bring into their inner
circle. Parents, teach your boys to be wary of the dangerous woman. There are
countless men in our society who are now a smoking ruin of their former selves,
because no one taught them this wisdom.
List of
References
[1] Erin
Somerville, 2025, https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-05-08/corbie-walpole-sentenced-burning-jake-loader-howlong-sentence/105265038
[3]
Ibid.
[4] Ibid.
[5]
Yes, I am aware that some men do this their wives as well. It is much rarer,
though it is real. I addressed this in an earlier chapter (maybe note the
chapter and page).
[6] The
new anti-coercion laws that feminists are seeking to get enacted across this
country, and other parts of the West, might actually open up the opportunity
for harassed men to hold to account the bad women who use the kinds of abuse
strategies that were up until recently consider below the threshold of being a
concern to law enforcement. They might have actually opened up their own
constituency to the very kind of encroaching state power they have been seeking
to bring men under for decades.
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