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Erza and Bad Marriages

 Did Ezra go too far in breaking up all these marriages?

In the comments on my previous article on Ezra, on Substack, someone asked me if I had considered whether Ezra went too far in breaking up the marriages between his people and foreign women. I answered that I had, but I decided not to add this into my previous article, because I have written about this in some detail in another context, and it would have made the previous article too long. But I think it is worth sharing, so I have decided to share and excerpt from a book I am working on, which discusses this situation and why we can be certain Ezra went too far.

Here is the excerpt:

Who is Ezra?

For those who do not know who Ezra was, he was a Levite of the priestly class descended from Aaron the brother of Moses, who lived in the exilic and post-exilic period. He was sent from among the Exiles to go and minister amongst the recently returned exiles in Jerusalem. Ezra himself tells us,

“1 Now after this, in the reign of Artaxerxes king of Persia, Ezra the son of Seraiah,… son of Phinehas, son of Eleazar, son of Aaron the chief priest— 6 this Ezra went up from Babylonia. He was a scribe skilled in the Law of Moses that the Lord, the God of Israel, had given, and the king granted him all that he asked, for the hand of the Lord his God was on him” (Ezra 7:1, 5-6).

Even though Ezra is never even mentioned in the New Testament, he is still probably one of the most influential men to have ever lived, and his influence is noted in the Old Testament, which is a book that is considered sacred to many faiths, especially Christianity. However, he often does not get the same credit as a Moses or Elijah. Yet he should, as he is the likely author of the books of 1 and 2 Chronicles, the book of Ezra and maybe even the book of Nehemiah. In fact, understanding the context of Ezra’s teachings in the books of 1 and 2 Chronicles will help us with our message in this chapter. This is no light task, we must tread carefully, wisely and with circumspection.

1st and 2nd Chronicles are powerfully written and insightful books which show that Israel was only ever granted the land if they demonstrated true faith and obeyed God. If they did not they would be vomited out (Lev. 18:26-28). According to Chronicles one of the reasons that God judged Judah is because it was an ally of Israel who set up Ahab and Jezebel as their leaders. Many of the bad things which happened in Judah were because the kings of Judah either married into the family of Ahab, or were descendants of the family of Ahab. They were the family of Ahab and Jezebel. Think about that. In fact, I read through these books again recently and I was shocked to note how influential the family of Ahab and Jezebel was in the falls of both Israel and Judah, and how much the books of Chronicles focused on this.

A good example of this is displayed through Jehoshaphat. He was a good king, but look at this dumb mistake he made,

“1 Now Jehoshaphat had great riches and honor, and he made a marriage alliance with Ahab…2 But Jehu the son of Hanani the seer went out to meet him and said to King Jehoshaphat, “Should you help the wicked and love those who hate the Lord? Because of this, wrath has gone out against you from the Lord.” (2 Chronicles 18:1, 19:2).

Jehoshaphat is noted as often doing what is right by the Lord in the Bible. However, this marriage alliance was a terrible mistake on his part. Jehoshaphat continually aligned himself with Israel, and God kept judging him for it,

“35 After this Jehoshaphat king of Judah joined with Ahaziah king of Israel, who acted wickedly. 36 He joined him in building ships to go to Tarshish, and they built the ships in Ezion-geber. 37 Then Eliezer the son of Dodavahu of Mareshah prophesied against Jehoshaphat, saying, “Because you have joined with Ahaziah, the Lord will destroy what you have made.” And the ships were wrecked and were not able to go to Tarshish” (2 Chron. 20:35-37).

Remember, and I have consistently reiterated this, Jehoshaphat was a good king. But his alliance with Ahab and Jezebel and Israel brought disaster on his people. Ahaziah, the king he allied with in this passage, was Ahab’s son.

Jehoshaphat’s son Jehoram made the same mistake,

“4 When Jehoram had ascended the throne of his father and was established, he killed all his brothers with the sword, and also some of the princes of Israel. 5 Jehoram was thirty-two years old when he became king, and he reigned eight years in Jerusalem. 6 And he walked in the way of the kings of Israel, as the house of Ahab had done, for the daughter of Ahab was his wife. And he did what was evil in the sight of the Lord” (2 Chron. 21:4-6).

In fact, Jehoram was worse than his father. He not only allied with the kings of Israel, he followed their ways. He imitated his father-in-law, Ahab more than his own father Jehoshaphat.

You are probably wondering, by this point, why we are looking at this history of the fall of Israel and Judah in our discussion about marriage here in this chapter. The answer is simple; Ezra weaves through his writings how devastating bad marriages can be. It is one of his most important themes. Bad marriages can even destroy nations.

One bad marriage in Israel, between Ahab and the Sidonian princess Jezebel, did not just destroy the kingdom of Israel, it also destroyed the kingdom of Judah. Think about that? Just stop and think about that for a moment. That is intense. Ezra is famous for his handling of what he considered illegitimate marriages in the book named after him, but he also wove this theology through his exploration of the fall of the twin kingdoms of God’s people.

Some people would rather not consider the political implications of the Bible. But that is because they have an unhealthy perspective on the Bible, politics, or usually both. To say politics should have nothing to do with a book that describes the founding of a nation, the setting up of political structures, and laws about how to enact justice, is simply to be dishonest. The Bible reaches into every aspect of life. The implications in the Bible of bad marriages are spiritual, practical and political. This is a massively important topic, and Ezra goes out of his way in his writings to address it directly.

Wrong Marriages (Ezra 9:1-4)

Now that we understand Ezra’s reading of Israel’s history this really frames what he writes in Ezra 9,

“1 After these things had been done, the officials approached me and said, “The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands with their abominations, from the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians, and the Amorites. 2 For they have taken some of their daughters to be wives for themselves and for their sons, so that the holy race has mixed itself with the peoples of the lands. And in this faithlessness the hand of the officials and chief men has been foremost.” 3 As soon as I heard this, I tore my garment and my cloak and pulled hair from my head and beard and sat appalled.”

Ezra’s perspective on Ahab and Jezebel adds real weight to our understanding of why he found this situation so concerning in his day. One of the advantages of reading through the Bible from cover to cover again and again is that as you go through it you make connections you did not really notice before. This is one thread I only noticed recently myself. Ezra continually weaves through 1 and 2 Chronicles how much damage to Israel the wrong marriages did. Imagine how a man with this perspective felt when we saw Israel doing this again? After everything they had gone through, they were making same mistakes on his watch.

He tells us exactly how he felt,

“O my God, I am ashamed and blush to lift my face to you, my God, for our iniquities have risen higher than our heads, and our guilt has mounted up to the heavens. 7 From the days of our fathers to this day we have been in great guilt. And for our iniquities we, our kings, and our priests have been given into the hand of the kings of the lands, to the sword, to captivity, to plundering, and to utter shame, as it is today” (Ezra 9:6).

Ezra would have been terrified that they would be expelled from the land again. Because, in his view, his people had fallen into the same errors that brought them down in the past.

The whole point of the exile was not to destroy Judah, but to refine her, discipline her, teach her humility and the importance of abiding in God’s law and God’s ways. As Hebrews tells us, God disciplines those he loves. God used Babylon as a refining fire to teach his people to appreciate him and his commands. But many had not learnt the correct lessons. So, these marriages with foreign women horrified a good man like Ezra, and he was a good man, one of the true greats of the Bible and indeed of all history. Ezra deserves to be ranked up there with the topline heroes in history. It also should not surprise us that a man who had this perspective encourages what we see next.

Wrong Marriages Ended (Ezra 10:1-5…44)

We read in Ezra 10,

“While Ezra prayed and made confession, weeping and casting himself down before the house of God, a very great assembly of men, women, and children, gathered to him out of Israel, for the people wept bitterly. 2 And Shecaniah the son of Jehiel, of the sons of Elam, addressed Ezra: “We have broken faith with our God and have married foreign women from the peoples of the land, but even now there is hope for Israel in spite of this. 3 Therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all these wives and their children, according to the counsel of my lord and of those who tremble at the commandment of our God, and let it be done according to the Law. 4 Arise, for it is your task, and we are with you; be strong and do it.” 5 Then Ezra arose and made the leading priests and Levites and all Israel take an oath that they would do as had been said. So they took the oath…44 All these had married foreign women, and some of the women had even borne children.”

The whole assembly came together and decided to end these marriages. Not every single person in Israel, of course, but are large proportion of them. This solution is pretty intense, and they followed through on it as well. The foreign women and their kids were cut off from the people. What happened to them is anyone’s guess. One can hope God provided for them like he did for Hagar and Ishmael. One wonders if they took into account what God did for Harag and Ishmael while deliberating on this issue.

It must also be noted that Ezra did not enforce this on the people like some dictator or tyrant. He and the people agreed on this,

“3 Therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all these wives and their children,... 4 Arise, for it is your task, and we are with you; be strong and do it.” 5 Then Ezra arose and made the leading priests and Levites and all Israel take an oath that they would do as had been said.”

The congregation of the people came to this decision, and then they put the responsibility for executing it on Ezra and the other leaders. The passage mentions that a few people opposed this measure, including some priests (v.15). But it was obviously a popular measure. The exile had clearly changed the Israelites, even if they did not fully apply their lesson straight away, still it had refined them. They realized that they needed to take God’s law and wisdom more seriously.

How often do we have to learn the hard way that we should have listened to God?

How many people have given you biblical counsel over the years, but you ignored it and then you learnt the hard way that you should have listened?

The people of Judah had learnt the hard way.

But to wrestle with our topic for this chapter, we need to ask the question: did they do the right thing? Do not misunderstand me, I am not going to argue that Ezra was a bad guy. He was truly a great leader and he was also in a high-pressure situation. We should not be so unfair as to expect perfection from God’s men in the Bible. The Bible is honest about the faults of its leaders. This should give us pause before we seek to imitate the men of the Bible. Just because a man in the Bible is a great man and does something does not mean he did not make serious mistakes. We need to evaluate their actions in light of the wider witness of the scriptures.  

Did Ezra Go Too Far?

Did Ezra go too far in sending these all these foreign women and children away? I think the answer is yes, he did, and I think the text makes this clear for us. If you don’t read chapter 9 carefully, or know the law of Moses very well, you can miss it. But look at what we read in verse 1,

“1 After these things had been done, the officials approached me and said, “The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands with their abominations, from the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians, and the Amorites.”

Ezra is here listing the nations from which the people of Judah have married foreign women. But do you see the issue there? He has added to the law. It is easy to miss this if you do not carefully examine what he said.

Ezra is referring to a couple of different passages from Deuteronomy here. The first one is in Deuteronomy 7:1-4,

“7 When the Lord your God brings you into the land that you are entering to take possession of it, and clears away many nations before you, the Hittites, the Girgashites, the Amorites, the Canaanites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations more numerous and mightier than you,…3 You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, 4 for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods….”

If you look carefully, you will see that the list in Ezra and one in Deuteronomy are not the same. Moses does not mention the Moabites or the Ammonites in his list. In fact, the Moabites and Ammonites are kin to the people of Israel. They descended from Lot, who was Abraham’s nephew. However, they were warned about making alliances with them.

The second passage Ezra refers to is in Deuteronomy 23:3-8,

“3 No Ammonite or Moabite may enter the assembly of the Lord. Even to the tenth generation, none of them may enter the assembly of the Lord forever,…6 You shall not seek their peace or their prosperity all your days forever. 7 “You shall not abhor an Edomite, for he is your brother. You shall not abhor an Egyptian, because you were a sojourner in his land. 8 Children born to them in the third generation may enter the assembly of the Lord.”

Deuteronomy 23 does not actually say that Israelites could not marry a Moabite or an Ammonite. But even though this is the case, Ezra adds these two passages together, “12 Therefore do not give your daughters to their sons, neither take their daughters for your sons, and never seek their peace or prosperity…” (Ezra 9:12) and extends the ban on marriage to more nations. Do you see that? Ezra is here mixing Deuteronomy 23:8 with Deuteronomy 7.

Ezra clearly has good intentions, and he clearly loves the Lord and loves his people. However, he appears to have gone beyond the law on this point. His inclusion of Egyptians makes this even more clear. God said, “You shall not abhor an Egyptian, because you were a sojourner in his land.” Yet Ezra is horrified that some of his people had married Egyptians.

The Spirit of the law

We need to be really careful here. We are talking about one of Israel’s great leaders who may have written 3 or 4 books of the Bible, including the masterpieces of 1 and 2 Chronicles. But remember the Bible is honest about its heroes and shows us their good and their bad qualities. The Holy Spirit is the ultimate author of the word and he always brings us powerful truth. What we see here is that there appears to have been an over-correction.

Consider this. Who was David’s great-great grandfather? Boaz, who was married to Ruth the Moabite. We read in the book of Ruth, named after this Moabite, “21 Salmon fathered Boaz, Boaz fathered Obed, 22 Obed fathered Jesse, and Jesse fathered David” (Ruth 4:18-22). Ruth, as the wife of Boaz was the mother of Obed, the grandmother of Jesse, and the great grandmother of David himself. In fact, the book of Ruth is fascinating, because it starts off by showing us that both Naomi’s husband and sons had probably been not all that wise, as they moved into Moab and the boys marry Moabite women. But by the end of the book Boaz, who is obviously a very kind, gracious and generous man, marries a Moabite and this is looked on favourably. And she is an ancestor of both David and Jesus on top of that.

This helps us to understand that there is the Spirit of the law and letter of the law. The Spirit of the law was meant to protect Israel from idolatry and sexual immorality. The letter of the law was a guide in that. The law was meant to be applied with skill and an understanding of the Spirit of the law. When Ruth abandoned her gods to follow Naomi’s God, she was no longer a threat to the men of Israel, because he had abandoned her own idols.

Ezra appears to understand the Spirit of the law very well. He cares about the spiritual state of his people, “O Lord, the God of Israel, you are just, for we are left a remnant that has escaped, as it is today. Behold, we are before you in our guilt, for none can stand before you because of this” (Ezra 9:15). Of course he cares. He is a good man and one of Levitical priests, a descendant of Aaron trained in the scriptures. He appears to understand the letter of the law reasonably well, as well.

But I think we are right to question if he went too far. The Old Testament did not prescribe what should happen in this situation. In one situation a man kills a Hebrew man who has a Moabite wife and is rewarded for it. In that context, what Ezra proposes is relatively mild. But separating wives and children from their provider in this ancient world is a harsh response, “All these had married foreign women, and some of the women had even borne children” (Ezra. 10:44). There is no mention or any indication in the book of Ezra that the leaders of Israel sought to sit down and examine the faith of these women and children. The lessons of the book of Ruth should have indicated that this was an important step.

Ezra’s motives are pure. There is no doubt about that. His theology is solid, he understands the danger of corruption from other religions. But it is not an accident that some scholars see the beginning roots of Jewish separatism and what would later become the Pharisees in this era. Don’t misunderstand me, I am not saying Ezra was a Pharisee, they came later. But we do see an over-correction to what had happened in the past, and an overly suspicious attitude to foreigners developing in this book, that would continue to harden over time. We may see here the beginnings of the trajectory that produced the Pharisees of Jesus’ day.

We are not here to condemn Ezra, though, but to learn from him. In him we see a good man who loves his God, loves his people and takes his faith seriously. He is a man who is seeking to protect his people as best as he can. But I think we also see in him that all too human tendency to swing the pendulum too far. Even the expositor’s commentary[1] agrees that he went beyond the law here.[2] Hence that is not just my opinion.

Getting marriage wrong is so common in human history that those of us who want to recorrect things can be prone to over-corrections, we can swing too far the other way. Those who are horrified at the immoral state of our country can become too legalistic, we can become too strict, too condemning, too guilt riddled. And getting the balance right is often very difficult for us. But I think we can settle our difficultly here with some help from Paul, the great Holy Spirit trained Apostle…

…For the rest you will have to wait for the full book. I am close to finishing it, and it is shorter than either of my previously published works.

Bless you.


List of References

[1] Need to confirm this source.

[2] “Ezra was going even further than the Book of Deuteronomy, which had allowed marriages with the heathen, (Deu_21:13) and (Deu_23:1-8).”

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