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Monday, 18 May 2026

Punishments For Adultery

 


There should be legal consequences for adultery. This would be just, right and biblical.

Everybody knows that Romans 13 says that Christians should obey governing authorities. Far less people recognize that it also teaches that governing authorities should obey God, and make laws that align with his word. As we read in Romans 13,

“1 Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. 2 Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. 4 For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil. 5 Therefore you must be subject, not only because of wrath but also for conscience’ sake. 6 For because of this you also pay taxes, for they are God’s ministers attending continually to this very thing. 7 Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor.

8 Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law. 9 For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not bear false witness,” “You shall not covet,” and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 10 Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”[1]

For the sake of simplicity, note that Paul says that all authority comes from God, therefore all authorities should look to God. Then Paul notes that this is why it is sinful to resist legitimate authority, because when you do you are resisting God. Then Paul gives the proper boundaries of governing power and punishment, the authorities are to punish evil works. Then Paul states in the positive that governments exist to protect those who do good. Hence, their proper role is to punish evildoers and protect the righteous. This is why we should be subject, so that we are not punished. Our taxes are meant to support these efforts to punish evil and protect the righteous.

At no point does Paul say that the government has the right to determine what is good. In fact, this would be anti-God for Paul to teach this, because from the very first chapters of the Bible, Genesis teaches that it is God who says what is good and what is not. And to make this clear Paul notes what standard of laws we should be judged by; the second tablet of the 10 commandments in verse 9, and then summarizes it by noting that the guiding principle of the law is love for one’s neighbour. In other words, God’s law, interpreted though Jesus Christ, determines what is good.

Hence, Paul’s argument is very simple: God has ordained government to punish that which he calls evil, and to protect those who do what is right. Which means it is very legitimate for the state to punish adulterers, because God says that adultery is evil. In fact, it is illegitimate to not punish them. It is unjust not to punish them.

Thankfully, some jurisdictions still punish adulterers. As we read in the New York post,

“These laws are designed to reinforce the marital bond and secure the importance of fidelity in marriage,” Wilcox said.

North Carolina remains one of only a handful of states that still allow alienation-of-affection lawsuits, which permit a spouse to sue a third party accused of helping destroy a marriage. Plaintiffs can seek massive financial damages, and in some cases, juries have delivered verdicts worth millions.

Critics call the lawsuits outdated relics rooted in old English common law. Supporters, however, argue the laws recognize that infidelity can inflict devastating emotional and financial harm that extends far beyond the couple involved.

“What people fail to see is the way what happens in our marriages affects adults, kids and communities,” Wilcox said.

He pointed to research showing infidelity is one of the strongest predictors of divorce and warned that the fallout can be especially severe for children.

“Kids whose parents get divorced are about half as likely to graduate from college,” Wilcox said. “They’re markedly more likely to struggle with depression. Boys are markedly more likely to end up in prison or jail.”[2]

Adultery is theft plain and simple. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that a husband and wife belong to each other; their bodies are not their own. This is Paul’s teaching. He does not say that the man owns the woman or the woman owns the man, but that they belong to each other. When someone comes in and breaks that bond, they commit the sins of adultery and theft, as they take the man or the woman away, and they cause great harm to the victim, to any children involved, to the prosperity of the injured family, and they have rebelled against the Lord God. It is not just a sin it is a true and genuine crime, a cruel one. How is it wrong to steal a man’s car, but permissible to steal his wife? Sure the latter crime is worse than the former.

Ask anyone who has gone through this. Ask someone who has faced first the humiliation of knowing their spouse has joined sexually with someone else, then the humiliation of knowing that their spouse is leaving them for someone else, then the humiliation of loss of access to children, then throw on top of that the often experienced financial ruin, and you have situation where someone has been truly wronged and harmed. And you have someone who deserves the chance to get some justice through the courts of law.

North-Carolina is just for still allowing wronged spouses to sue those who interfered in their marriages. This should be the standard practice in all Anglo-Saxon societies, after all, it has roots in our common law heritage. And, yes I know that common law is often overruled and replaced by modern legal rulings. I am not arguing that there is some trick in Australian law that gives you more rights through common law. I am simply saying, these sorts of just punishment for adulterers should exist, and are actually part of our historical legal traditions. It was once considered right in our systems that the person who comes between a man and his wife should be held to account, in the same way that people are when they interfere with other contracts in our society.

Australians do not currently have such protections,

“Changes were made to the Family Law Act in 1975 that did away with moralising about infidelity. Married partners now have to be legally separated for 12 months before they can seek a divorce.

Adultery no longer serves as legitimate grounds for divorce in Australia, and cheating spouses and their partners cannot be pursued legally for “emotional distress” or any other kind of loss incurred by the breakdown of a marriage.

There is some wiggle room when it comes to a property settlement in a divorce, where judges do make allowances for partners if one is found to have engaged in the “wastage of matrimonial assets” through gambling, the use of escort services or other extreme circumstances. The judge would have to find the spouse’s spending to be “wanton” and “excessive.”[3]

The Bible says that people who do not commit adultery love their neighbour and should have nothing to fear from the authorities. This means that it is legitimate and necessary for a just court system to punish adulterers and put the fear of God into people who commit such a despicable act. It is just for the government to use threat of legal punishments to curb people’s behaviour in this area. I am not a utopian, I know people will still break the law. They do in North Carolina, but at least there will be a just recourse for legal punishments. And this is right and good. Bring these laws back.

Note this, these laws are popular with juries in North Carolina,

“Still, both Ullman and Wilcox said the continued popularity of these lawsuits with North Carolina juries reflects something deeper about how Americans still view marriage.

“I think it inherently is in people’s hearts that protecting marriages is the right thing,” Ullman said. “Marriage vows are around because people believe there’s something to them.”[4]

Give a scorned spouse, whose husband or wife was taken from them, a chance to confront the person who stole their spouse, and share about their situation and how they have been emotionally or financially ruined by the adultery, with a jury of 12 of their peers, likely including housewives, working husbands and other decent folk. And, with the guidance of a judge, let justice be served. That is just, that is right.

Our current system is not.

List of References


[1] Romans 13:1-10

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