Don't Tell Me The Odds

 

Fearing to get married, because it might fail, is like fearing to leave your house because you might have a car accident. Sure, car accidents happen to people every day, marriages fail every day. But the blessing you get from walking out that door and experiencing what God has created in this world far outweighs the risks. So, it is with marriage.

He who dares wins, as they say. With high risk comes high reward. Marriage can be a high risk endeavour in our modern society, but the rewards for getting it right make it far better than many other risks you are probably willing to take. Many young men take incredible risks for very little more than a momentary thrill, or a minor financial benefit. Marriage will pay off far better than any of these risks. 

So much of the manosphere is designed to discourage men to marry today. I have seen video after video of these men laying down the "facts" about how many marriages fail and how bad it can be for a man when they do. I have seen video after video of men complaining about how they have been railroaded by the system and the numbers on how many men this has happened to.

When it comes to your own choice to marriage though, who cares? As Han Solo would say, "Don't tell me the odds." Why? Because courage doesn't care about the odds and, plus, you aren't a statistic. It is foolish to think of yourself as 1 in 3, or 1 in for 4, or in any other such fraction. Your life will work out in line with the effort, thought and intention that you put into your life. You will not be able to control everything that happens to you, but you can make wise decisions that limit your chances of facing the kinds of failure that the internet loser is going on about in his 500^th video on the topic. All that time spent mulling over how many ways a marriage could fail is time wasted where you could have been enjoying the person whom you married.

As the Proverbs say, "He who finds a wife, finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord" (18:22).

If you are listening to men who are telling you to avoid marriage because of the odds, slowly back away from their craziness. With great risk comes high reward. No greater rewards come to a man than those he will experience from marriage with a good woman.